My Survivor Story - Alyssia

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A few years ago, I would talk on and off with a guy that I thought was so handsome on Facebook. We ended up being on a dating app and eventually he asked me out again, so I said ok. He said his car was in the shop, so I picked him up. He gave me the directions and we went to this dive bar. In my mind I was thinking like this is where you wanted to go? I don’t like to drink right away because I like to look at my surroundings, so he had a drink and then we went to the back and sat at a table, and I believe I had a drink when we went back. He asked me if I wanted another drink and I said yes. He brought me my drink back and it felt like within 10 minutes I was getting extremely drunk, and I remember telling him that. He told me to take my cup with me because we were ready to go and I wasn’t done. He drove and we stopped at a gas station, and I remember I messenger called one of my friends at the time. We got to his apartment, and I remember walking up the steps and sitting on his couch and I started to feel nauseous, so he gave me a bag. How we got into his room and what happened I have no recollection of. The next morning, I ASSUMED I had sex with him, but I didn’t remember because (I thought) I drank too much. That whole week at work I remember telling co-workers I must be getting old because I felt hungover the whole week. A few months later I received a DM from a friend who said to call her after work. I’m not the type of person who can wait so I called her and she asked me specific questions and knew specific things that I could answer. Apparently, he had started videotaping me as soon as we started walking up the steps to his apartment. He sent the video to my ex-boyfriend for some unknown reason to this day. I’ve never felt so low and dirty and just humiliated. Everyone saw the video but me. I reached out to extended family members that knew him personally and when I told them they went straight to the source, and he said, “I don’t know that b*tch” but because we had talked so much, I knew specific things that proved he was lying. I never reported it to the police because I was embarrassed, I didn’t think I would be believed because I didn’t have the video, and it was like I just wanted to move on and try to forget it. Then COVID began and all I had was time. Time to think about EVERYTHING. During that time, I hid in my house and had so much anxiety and fear that I would not leave my house. But my dad being a pastor he found out, and one thing he always taught me was to forgive. Until I could forgive, I did a lot of praying and working with my psychiatrist and just needed to understand what happened and forgive him. I’ve completely forgave him for what he did, but I’ll never forget. I am still working on my social anxiety and not feeling so unsafe being outside of my comfort zones, but I’m doing better than I have in a while and I’m stronger today because of it.


-Alyssia (Pittsburgh, PA)


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